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We have so many friends who are in marriages that are not working well and they tell me all about what is wrong. A large percentage of these emails involve their struggling romantic relationships. A couple years ago, I discovered that I was answering the vast majority of these relationship emails with the exact same response.

Then come back and ask again. If something bothers you in the relationship, you must be willing to say it. Saying it builds trust and trust builds intimacy. It may hurt, but you still need to do it. No one else can fix your relationship triend you.

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Trust is like a china plate. If you drop it and it breaks, you can put it back together with a lot of work and care. If you drop it and break it a second time, it will split into twice as many pieces and it will require far more time and care to put back together again. But drop and break it enough times, and it will shatter into so many pieces that you will never be able to put it back together again, no matter what you do. Understand that it is up to you to make yourself happy, it is NOT the job of your spouse.

Figure out as individuals what makes you happy as an individual, be happy yourself, then you each bring that to the relationship. You are supposed to keep the relationship happy by consistently sacrificing yourself for your partner and their wants and needs. There is some truth to that. Every relationship requires each person to consciously choose to give something up at times. Just read that again.

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Those are the two people who fell in love with each other in the first place. But how does one do this? Be sure you have a life of your own, otherwise it is harder to have a life together. What do I mean? Have your own interests, your own friends, your own support network, and your own hobbies.

Overlap where you can, but not being identical should give you something to talk about and expose one another to. Among the emails, one of the most popular themes was the importance of creating space and separation from one another.

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Over the course of 20 years we both have changed tremendously. We have changed faiths, political parties, numerous hair colors and styles, but we love each other and possibly even more.

Our grown kids constantly tell their friends what hopeless romantics we are. And the biggest thing that keeps us strong is not giving a fuck about what anyone else says about our relationship.

I can get on board with that. Amazingly, these couples survived because their respect for each other allowed them to adapt and allow each person to continue to flourish and grow.

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You have to hash things out. Obstacles make the marriage. John Gottman is a hot-shit psychologist and researcher who has spent over 30 years analyzing married couples and looking for keys to why they stick together and why they break up.

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To me, like everything else, this comes back to the respect thing.

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A similar concept seems to be true in relationships: But how do you get good at forgiving? What does that actually mean? Again, some advice from the readers:.

And finally, pick your battles wisely. One piece of advice that comes to mind: Some things matter, worth getting upset about. Most do not.

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Like Chinese water torture: Is it worth the cost of arguing? Eventually your kids grow up, Horny female Passo fundo obnoxious brother-in-law will join a monastery and your parents will die.

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